Sleep experts share the best ways to get shut-eye without sacrificing your relationship, reports the Huffington Post.

“If you don’t sleep enough, a whole bunch of things can go wrong — either acutely, where you’re going to be sleepy, irritable and cranky, and your cognitive abilities are going to degrade,” Meir Kryger, a Yale Medicine sleep expert, told HuffPost. In the long term, a lack of sleep can cause major issues with your heart, metabolism and immune system.

Rather than blame your partner for your sleep deprivation, sleep experts suggest working through it together.