The thing about the baby sleep advice industry is that it can offer support, but it can also convey the sense that it’s your fault your baby isn’t sleeping, reports Jezebel.

Shalini Paruthi, co-director of the Sleep Medicine and Research Center at St. Luke’s Hospital, says that this particular e-book, which I shared with her, does generally follow medical and behavioral guidelines. “Sometimes it’s hard to know where to start with a sleep schedule and their suggested schedules are a reasonable place to start, provided parents pay attention to their baby’s individual cues and make reasonable adjustments,” she said.