Well+Good asked experts for tips on how to adjust to a partner with different sleep patterns.

Genetics play a huge role in whether you’re a night owl or early bird, so it’s not easy to change that behavior. “It’s rare for both people to have the same sleep habits,” says Inessa Freylekhman, a marriage and family therapist and feng shui expert at Carillon Miami Wellness Resort.

“The key to coping with a partner who has a very different sleep pattern is communication.” But sleep doesn’t need to be a relationship deal-breaker—with a few adjustments, you can both get your eight hours.